Mary Killen

Mary Killen writes The Spectator's Dear Mary column.

Dear Mary: How to give a dinner party and still get an early night

25 April 2015 9:00 am

Q. I socialise in Shropshire every weekend and regularly give dinners which end at 2 a.m., but it’s a different matter…

Your problems solved

23 April 2015 1:00 pm

Q. I socialise in Shropshire every weekend and regularly give dinners which end at 2 a.m., but it’s a different matter…

Dear Mary: How can I stop friends calling without warning?

18 April 2015 9:00 am

Q. I have moved from London to the centre of a historic market town, now becoming famous as a foodie…

Dear Mary

16 April 2015 1:00 pm

Q. I have moved from London to the centre of a historic market town, now becoming famous as a foodie…

Dear Mary: How can I keep my retiring husband out of the house?

11 April 2015 9:00 am

Q. For ten years, I have made a reasonable freelance income working from home. During this time my husband has…

Dear Mary

9 April 2015 1:00 pm

Q. For ten years, I have made a reasonable freelance income working from home. During this time my husband has…

Dear Mary: How I can I avoid being invited to any more country house weekends?

4 April 2015 9:00 am

Q. Someone I was at university with but hadn’t seen much of over the ten years since invited me to…

Your problems solved

2 April 2015 2:00 pm

Q. Someone I was at university with but hadn’t seen much of over the ten years since invited me to…

Dear Mary

28 March 2015 9:00 am

Q. When sending wedding invitations, does one put the full titles on the card, or can one just put, for…

Dear Mary

26 March 2015 3:00 pm

Q. When sending wedding invitations, does one put the full titles on the card, or can one just put, for…

Dear Mary: What can I do to make couples split the bill fairly?

21 March 2015 9:00 am

Q. I’m a single bloke now and for various reasons don’t foresee any change to that status. I have moved…

Your problems solved

19 March 2015 3:00 pm

Q. I’m a single bloke now and for various reasons don’t foresee any change to that status. I have moved…

Dear Mary: When is it all right not to bring something to a dinner party?

14 March 2015 9:00 am

Q. A wonderful and generous woman invites me, on a regular basis, to dinner parties at her house. What is…

Dear Mary: I know an interior designer socially, but is it acceptable to ask her advice?

7 March 2015 9:00 am

Q. A close friend is dating a renowned decorator. Meanwhile, on a limited budget, I am trying to smarten up…

Dear Mary: How can I lie about my age and still use my Senior Railcard?

28 February 2015 9:00 am

Q. I was not brought up in England and don’t appear in Who’s Who. This means that there is no…

Dear Mary: How can I stop my elderly host making the bed?

21 February 2015 9:00 am

Q. I have regularly stayed with a hospitable friend in London but now hesitate to invite myself. She is seventy-something…

What do you do about a friend who cannot make a request directly?

14 February 2015 9:00 am

Q. I have a friend with multiple sclerosis. She lives alone in the countryside. There is no bus service and,…

Dear Mary: How can I stop my neighbour pacing the ceiling?

7 February 2015 9:00 am

Q. The woman who lives above me has insomnia and walks around all night. I’m also disturbed by her rather…

Dear Mary: how can I stop my husband from chopping down all our trees?

31 January 2015 9:00 am

Q. My husband — currently unemployed — has started ‘sourcing’ logs from our own smallholding. Chopping down perfectly good trees, sawing logs,…

Dear Mary: How can I stop friends staying after a 21st?

24 January 2015 9:00 am

Q. A neighbour is hosting a party for his daughter’s 21st birthday. Adequate provision has been made for anyone who…

Dear Mary: Someone told me their extraordinary life story, but I tuned the whole thing out

17 January 2015 9:00 am

Q. After a recent dinner I found myself on a two-seater sofa enjoying the restful company of a woman who…

Dear Mary: How will Joan Collins introduce herself now she’s a dame?

10 January 2015 9:00 am

Q. We enjoyed the Christmas University Challenge series featuring mature graduates, some of whom were more in the public eye than…

Dear Mary: What can I do about my neighbours’ downmarket recycling?

3 January 2015 9:00 am

Q. Since recycling was introduced in our village, the wall at the end of our drive has become the depositing…

Dear Mary solves problems for Jim Broadbent, N.M. Gwynne, Jesse Norman and others

13 December 2014 9:00 am

Once again Mary has invited some of her favourite figures in the public eye to submit personal queries for her…

Dear Mary: How do you stop someone wearing leather trousers to work?

6 December 2014 9:00 am

Q. My husband employs an ageing rocker in his shop. She is highly efficient, and is an extremely nice woman.…