Family

The false narrative of white vs BAME

3 April 2021 9:00 am

Almost 20 years ago, Michael Howard spoke about the ‘British dream’: that immigrant families like his could come to this…

Dear Mary: What should my wife and I do with the risque photos we took in our youth?

13 March 2021 9:00 am

Q. I hesitate to bring you this problem, but I suspect it is not that uncommon. Early in our very…

How middle-class is your dad?

20 February 2021 9:00 am

The politics and posturing of ‘middle-class dads’

Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder

13 February 2021 9:00 am

The wine has been flowing in the Young household this week. The reason I’ve been celebrating is because I managed…

The art of mourning well

13 February 2021 9:00 am

Malindi, Kenya I’ve learned that mourning must be tackled ever so gently. As a younger man, when friends were killed…

Minority groups should ignore the anti-vax charlatans

6 February 2021 9:00 am

My great-great-grandmother, born on a Barbadian plantation and transported to what was British Guiana in the 19th century, gave rise…

Farewell to my dear friend Richard, the very best of us

23 January 2021 9:00 am

I heard the shocking news last week that one of my oldest friends — Richard Edwards — had died suddenly…

Meal kits are a recipe for mayhem

16 January 2021 9:00 am

Caroline was pretty heroic during the first lockdown. She’s used to having no children to deal with between the hours…

A dog is not just for lockdown

9 January 2021 9:00 am

The Dogs Trust charity received 114 calls on 27 and 28 December from people wanting to offload their puppies. No,…

The wonderful ghosts of Christmas past

19 December 2020 9:00 am

Seances, trikes and the miracle of tinfoil

The unlikely Schindler who saved my wife’s family

19 December 2020 9:00 am

As I gaze at my four children on Christmas morning, clambering on to the bed with their stockings, I will…

We don't want pandemic novels – we want gentle escapism

28 November 2020 9:00 am

I’m often asked when I’ll write a pandemic novel. I’m not sure I’d ever be tempted, though the backdrop of…

My kids think my move into the garden shed means divorce

28 November 2020 9:00 am

I’ve moved out of my home. No, Caroline and I haven’t broken up. It’s just that we’re having the house…

Dear Mary: Will my friend be offended if I buy her an XL dress?

21 November 2020 9:00 am

Q. My son has moved his girlfriend into our fairly small house for the second lockdown. I am grateful for…

What lockdown means for families with disabled children

7 November 2020 9:00 am

What lockdown means for families with disabled children

My Aunt Beryl’s zinc-lined trunk revealed extraordinary family secrets

26 September 2020 9:00 am

Bexhill-on-Sea My Aunt Beryl taught me to love books and paintings. When I’m at a loose end in London, lonely,…

Today’s undergraduates are customers – and the customer is always right

22 August 2020 9:00 am

If you’re looking for a sign of the academic times, you could do worse than consider the image, published in…

She was just a damn cat – and I loved her

18 July 2020 9:00 am

I’ve never dug a grave before. But that was how I spent my Sunday afternoon. Three feet is awfully deep…

The antibody test that proved my wife wrong

20 June 2020 9:00 am

Back in April, The Spectator ran a feature in which the partners of regular contributors wrote about what it was…

Unfortunately our new puppy is not just for lockdown

30 May 2020 9:00 am

Will the huge surge in demand for puppies and kittens during lockdown lead to a lot of abandoned pets when…

In the Covid era, age isn’t just a number

9 May 2020 9:00 am

When I told my seven-year-old granddaughter, over Zoom, how much I missed being with her, I added: ‘Maybe it won’t…

Lockdown used to be the norm for new mothers

9 May 2020 9:00 am

I laughed when my Spanish midwife mentioned in passing that in Latin American countries they have a custom for new…

Salman Rushdie: ‘The implausible has become everyday’

25 April 2020 9:00 am

Salman Rushdie on writing in the Age of Anything-Can-Happen

Our puppy has no respect for the two-metre rule

18 April 2020 9:00 am

Since the beginning of the lockdown, Caroline has been congratulating herself for having bought a puppy ‘just in time’. She…

The world of make-believe is stranger than we realise

28 March 2020 9:00 am

Last summer, in the bc era, I took my then three-year-old to a new group play session: ‘Lottie’s Magic Box.’…