Farewell to my dear friend Richard, the very best of us

23 January 2021 9:00 am

I heard the shocking news last week that one of my oldest friends — Richard Edwards — had died suddenly…

Dear Mary: Should I give my postman a Christmas present?

12 December 2020 9:00 am

Q. I am extremely fond of an artist friend, despite the fact that I have never liked her work or…

Dear Mary: How can I wind up a Zoom call with a chatty friend?

7 November 2020 9:00 am

Q. Is there a tactful way to wind up a Zoom call when one of you has more time on…

Dear Mary: How should I handle my bitchy friend’s birthday cards?

3 October 2020 9:00 am

Q. Many years ago I was asked to officiate at a funeral for a family I did not know. As…

Barbara Amiel: My memoir has cost me my best friends

26 September 2020 9:00 am

The only female writers of importance I have personally met are Margaret Atwood and Joan Didion, both of whom are…

Dear Mary: How can we be sure our host gives us clean sheets?

5 September 2020 9:00 am

Q. Some friends persist on displaying our email addresses in large address lists when sending out round robins to all…

The politics of email sign-offs

25 July 2020 9:00 am

I think Anne Applebaum is a friend of mine. I certainly hope so, since I have always admired her writing,…

Trick or treat: the pros and cons of being hacked

18 July 2020 9:00 am

The pros and cons of being hacked

The intense pleasures of lockdown

6 June 2020 9:00 am

I used to live in Mogadishu for months at a time, cooped up in compounds behind fortified walls. Venturing on…

An open letter to the friend who dropped me after Question Time

7 March 2020 9:00 am

I’ve put off sending a private email that’s been ready to go for weeks. Then last Sunday, I read Julie…

Dear Mary: As an actor, how do I cope with strangers who think they know me?

7 February 2020 10:00 pm

Q. I have hired a private room in a restaurant in order to give dinner to a large number of…

The unwritten rules of sending Christmas cards

7 December 2019 9:00 am

No one sends Christmas cards any more. Except that I do, and you might, and a few other people do…

Dear Mary: Is it ever acceptable to blow my own trumpet?

15 June 2019 9:00 am

Q. A friend of 30 years moved abroad three years ago. He then was diagnosed with throat cancer but mercifully…

My friend’s death taught me what Easter really means

20 April 2019 9:00 am

The bravest thing I’ve ever seen was 93-year-old Albert’s decision to die and the days after in which he stuck…

Britain has become a country of braggarts and show-offs

8 December 2018 9:00 am

Over the past 20 years, the old British trait of self-deprecation has been killed off. And in its place, boasting…


28 October 2017 9:00 am

Meeting halfway Sir: If our Brexit negotiator David Davis has not read Robert Tombs’s wonderful article ‘Lost in translation’ (21…

Return to the lost city

26 August 2017 9:00 am

During a press interview in Bombay about his latest book, the author-narrator of Friend of My Youth feels ‘a surge…

The day I stopped believing in the friendship myth

4 June 2016 9:00 am

Should we be surprised that friendship isn’t always mutual? That is one of the findings of a team of researchers…

How the 'dating apocalypse' led me to vajazzle my armpits

28 May 2016 9:00 am

Why I went looking for love in the armpits of strange men

Dear Mary: new neighbours want me to provide a ready-made social scene

27 February 2016 9:00 am

Q. Former colleagues, with whom I got on very well in the context of the office, are buying a house…

When did we become a nation of police informers?

10 January 2015 9:00 am

There’s a danger that in what follows your columnist may seem to be recommending an attitude. Please don’t think that.…

Dear Mary: Learning to love a man who whistles through his nose

25 October 2014 9:00 am

Q. What can you do when disorganised friends say they would love to come to a concert with you but…

Jeremy Vine’s diary: Zipcars, hipster milk and the word that means I’m losing an argument

4 October 2014 9:00 am

Last Tuesday I tried to sign up to a new life. My wife and I argued, slightly. ‘I don’t think…

A girl, a train and a miniature pistol: how I met the Everly Brothers

11 January 2014 9:00 am

I had five decades of delight with the Everly Brothers – and it all began on the Flying Scotsman

The Interestings, by Meg Wolitzer - review

31 August 2013 9:00 am

Thick, sentimental and with a narrative bestriding four decades, Meg Wolitzer’s The Interestings feels above all like a Victorian novel,…