Mary Killen

Mary Killen writes The Spectator's Dear Mary column.

Dear Mary: How do I stop my neighbour sending WhatsApp messages IN CAPITALS?

30 November 2024 9:00 am

Q. My husband has a stressful job and needs to quietly decompress at the end of the week. This is…

Dear Mary: How can I avoid a lunge on a date?

23 November 2024 9:00 am

Q. I have been working in London as a receptionist in a private members’ club and consequently have had the…

Dear Mary: How can I say no to charities I don’t want to support?

16 November 2024 9:00 am

Q. My wife worked in the picture department of a very reputable auction house but has now taken to retirement…

Dear Mary: How can we get our messy little boys excused from formal lunches?

9 November 2024 9:00 am

Q. To my surprise I have been asked to give a eulogy at the funeral of someone I knew only…

Dear Mary: How do I stop my boss sending me rambling voice notes?

2 November 2024 9:00 am

Q. I am a concierge for a high-net-worth individual. She likes to communicate with me mainly via WhatsApp voice messages…

Dear Mary: How do I stop my friend’s banal WhatsApp messages?

26 October 2024 9:00 am

Q. I have a very dear friend who lives in Scotland, so we rarely see each other. Before the internet…

Dear Mary: how can I stop guests waking too early?

12 October 2024 9:00 am

Q. I meet a very old and dear friend for lunch on a regular basis. We meet at a lovely…

Dear Mary: Should you flush the loo in the night when staying with friends?

21 September 2024 9:00 am

Q. We live in an area with no mobile reception and trying to get hold of taxis for guests leaving…

Dear Mary: How do I shake off charity collectors?

7 September 2024 9:00 am

Q. A friend, who I love dearly and who comes to stay a lot, has always been unforthcoming with gifts.…

Dear Mary: How do I avoid my neighbours on holiday?

31 August 2024 9:00 am

Q. We have some neighbours who we don’t mind at all – they are perfectly nice, just not part of…

Dear Mary: how do I hide my pregnancy from my boozy friends?

24 August 2024 9:00 am

Q. We love having friends to stay at our house in Cornwall. One particular guest has the habit of arriving…

Dear Mary: how can I deter the creep at my pub quiz?

17 August 2024 9:00 am

Q. I have been pitched into a social dilemma regarding Glyndebourne, which I live near to but don’t go to…

Dear Mary: how do I set up two young people?

10 August 2024 9:00 am

Q. I have invited some younger friends to stay with me at a family house in Spain. Among the party…

Dear Mary: How do I keep my phone safe on the beach?

27 July 2024 9:00 am

Q. My husband and I have just been on a wonderful long weekend abroad to a friend’s 60th birthday. We…

Dear Mary: Help! My teeth are too white

20 July 2024 9:00 am

Q. I ride a bike from Chiswick to the City each morning. It is a ten-mile journey that takes 45…

Dear Mary: is it rude to listen to sport at a wedding?

13 July 2024 9:00 am

Q. We live in the countryside, where the door is always open. Last week when it was sunny we had…

Dear Mary: can you leave a party without saying goodbye?

6 July 2024 9:00 am

Q. Often at parties strangers bear down on me looking excited and are then offended when I don’t recognise them.…

Dear Mary: how to rumble a snooper

29 June 2024 9:00 am

Q. I like and get on well with my sister-in-law. My problem is that she is incredibly nosy and I…

Dear Mary: how can I safeguard my feminist principles at dinner?

22 June 2024 9:00 am

Q. My husband and I will shortly be having some South American friends to stay. They come most years and…