Dating

Bankers are hot again

17 August 2024 9:00 am

‘I’m looking for a man in finance/ Trust fund/ 6’5”/ Blue eyes.’ When Megan Boni posted this ditty on her…

Dear Mary: how do I set up two young people?

10 August 2024 9:00 am

Q. I have invited some younger friends to stay with me at a family house in Spain. Among the party…

Who uses Grindr?

13 April 2024 9:00 am

Meet market Who uses the gay dating app Grindr? – The site claims 27m users worldwide, 80.5% of whom identify…

Help! I’m on a dating blacklist

4 November 2023 9:00 am

There’s a online blacklist of men you should avoid dating and I’m on it. I discovered this over the summer…

I’ve turned 60 – but all is not lost

21 October 2023 9:00 am

By the time you read this I’ll be 60, having passed that milestone on Tuesday. My older friends tell me…

Could I find a girlfriend on a Guardian Blind Date?

30 September 2023 9:00 am

Was a Guardian Blind Date the answer?

Dear Mary

2 September 2023 9:00 am

Can this dating gimmick help me find love?

19 August 2023 9:00 am

Could a new gimmick help me find love?

If you like First Dates, you'll love This is Dating

26 February 2022 9:00 am

The tagline of This is Dating, a new podcast from across the pond, is ‘Come for the cringe, stay for…

Why can't men write about sex?

27 September 2021 9:04 pm

Not long ago I was a regular Tinder user. Having heard that gingers were romantically incompatible, I decided to mix…

The rise of vaccine virtue-signalling

25 May 2021 3:00 pm

I’ve bemoaned the ‘no Tories please’ line on dating profiles many a time. Closed-minded and over-used, it’s a banal way…

Dear Mary: How do I cope with cooking for food snobs?

14 November 2020 9:00 am

Q. I have a delightful young goddaughter who, thanks to the virus, I have not seen since last year. Her…

I’ve started a dating site for lockdown sceptics

15 August 2020 9:00 am

I started a dating site last Sunday. Not words I ever thought I’d write, but I’ve become a kind of…

How Covid has changed the dating game

25 July 2020 9:00 am

Covid has changed the dating game

Pity poor Candace Bushnell, still flogging Sex and the City at 60

17 August 2019 9:00 am

On paper, Candace Bushnell and the medieval warlord El Cid don’t have a lot in common. The first made a…

A woman advertises for a partner for her child in Shanghai’s People’s Park

Would your son marry me? Inside Shanghai’s marriage market

9 March 2019 9:00 am

 Shanghai ‘How old are you, young lady?’ A small, curious crowd starts to surround me. ‘How tall are you? What…

Dear Mary: How can I face the friends who warned me that my girlfriend would dump me?

3 November 2018 9:00 am

Q. Previously a long-term and content single man, earlier in the year I began a relationship with a wonderful girl,…

Dear Mary: My new boyfriend is too short. Can I make him wear shoe lifts?

28 April 2018 9:00 am

Q. An acquaintance, whom I admire but don’t know well, sent me a ‘begging’ letter to donate to a charity…

Joan Collins: Want to know why all the Oscar films are boring? I’ll tell you

10 February 2018 9:00 am

I’ve been meaning to write a Spectator diary since the summer but as a Gemini with Aries rising I find…

US film producer Harvey Weinstein (Photo: Getty)

Dangerous liaisons

21 October 2017 9:00 am

Lothario, Don Juan, philanderer, ‘naughty’, ‘plays away’ — all terms for men who have an overwhelming drive to seduce scores…

One night in the backwoods

4 June 2016 9:00 am

The man I met in the moose-hunters' bar, and what happened between us

How the 'dating apocalypse' led me to vajazzle my armpits

28 May 2016 9:00 am

Why I went looking for love in the armpits of strange men

Dear Mary: help me to engineer a date with this charming army officer

19 March 2016 9:00 am

Q. I have a deep crush on an army officer I’ve met through work. He is decisive, practical and doesn’t…